Selfless Love

Selfless love is at the heart of discipleship and spiritual growth. Here’s how it is often understood:

1. Rooted in Christ’s Example

Jesus embodied agapē love — the Greek word for unconditional, sacrificial love. He reached out to the marginalized, forgave enemies, healed the sick, and gave himself fully for others without asking what he would gain in return. Selfless love follows that same pattern: giving without needing repayment.

2. Seeing the Other as Sacred

Selfless love recognizes the inherent worth and dignity of every person as a child of God. It calls us to treat others not as means to an end but as beloved ends in themselves, whether they are friend, stranger, or even adversary.

3. Letting Go of Ego and Control

It means loosening our grip on pride, entitlement, or the need to always be right. Instead, we listen, serve, and enter into relationships with humility, seeking the flourishing of others as much as our own.

4. Practical Expressions

  • Offering kindness without expecting thanks.
  • Standing up for justice even when it costs us comfort or privilege.
  • Forgiving when we have every right to stay angry.
  • Caring for the earth, future generations, and communities we may never see.

5. A Lifelong Practice

Selfless love is not about erasing one’s own needs or boundaries (which can lead to unhealthy sacrifice), but about living in a way where compassion and generosity guide decisions. It’s a balance of caring for oneself and making room for the well-being of others.

✨ In short: selfless love is love that seeks the good of the other, without calculation, fear, or reward, flowing from the heart of God through us.

Daily Practice for Cultivating Selfless Love

Morning Intention (2 minutes):
When you wake, place your hand over your heart and pray something like:
“God of love, let me be a channel of compassion today. Help me to see others with Your eyes.”

Daily Awareness (throughout the day):
Choose one small act of selfless love each day. Examples:

  • Speak a kind word to someone who seems overlooked.
  • Offer your patience in a long line or with a difficult person.
  • Send a message of encouragement with no expectation of reply.
  • Refrain from gossip or judgment and instead offer silent blessing.

Evening Reflection (5 minutes):
Before bed, pause and ask yourself:

  • Where did I practice selfless love today?
  • Where did I miss the opportunity?
  • Tomorrow, how can I open my heart more?

Close with gratitude, knowing each step (big or small) builds the habit of living in Christ’s love.

A Daily Litany of Selfless Love

Leader (you):
Gracious God, awaken my heart to Your love this day.

Response (you or silently):
Let me love without counting the cost.

Leader:
When I am tempted to act from pride or selfishness,
Response:
Teach me humility and gentleness.

Leader:
When I encounter the stranger, the overlooked, or the hurting,
Response:
Let me see Your image in them.

Leader:
When fear or anger rises within me,
Response:
Fill me with patience and compassion.

Leader:
May my words bring kindness,
my hands bring service,
and my presence bring peace.

All (you):
God of boundless mercy,
make me a vessel of selfless love today.
Amen.

From Heart to Words: Living with Integrity Before God and Others

Scripture Focus:


  • “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”Proverbs 23:7

  • “Those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.”Matthew 15:18

We live in a world that often rewards appearance over substance. Smiles can mask resentment, polite words can hide selfish motives, and religious rituals can be performed without a trace of love for God. But Scripture is clear—what is in our hearts defines us more than what is on our lips or in our outward behavior.

Proverbs 23:7 offers a timeless warning: “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” In context, the verse cautions us about dining with someone whose words say, “Eat and drink,” but whose heart resents the cost. This is hypocrisy in everyday life—when there is a disconnect between what we present and what we truly believe or feel.

Centuries later, Jesus pressed the same truth even deeper in Matthew 15:11–20. Confronting the Pharisees’ obsession with ceremonial handwashing, He declared that it’s not what enters the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out. The real issue, He said, is the heart—because what fills the heart will inevitably spill out in our words and actions. And if the heart harbors evil thoughts, lies, or hatred, those will find their way into our speech and defile us far more than any unwashed hands or unclean foods ever could.

Both passages cut through the human tendency to focus on outward performance. Proverbs tells us that who we are inside shapes our true identity; Jesus tells us that what we say and do flows from that same inner reality.

Put simply: you can only fake it for so long before your heart writes its truth across your life.The call here is to integrity of heart and speech. This isn’t about pretending to be perfect—it’s about surrendering our inner life to God so that what overflows from us is love, truth, and goodness. It means inviting the Holy Spirit to search us, cleanse us, and align our thoughts, attitudes, and words

.A heart is like a well—whatever’s in the water will come up in the bucket. If the well is clean, the water will refresh; if the well is poisoned, the water will harm. The words you speak are just the bucket’s contents—your heart is the source. Keep the source pure, and the overflow will bring life.

When our hearts are right with God, our speech will honor Him and our relationships will be marked by authenticity. When we speak from a clean heart, we offer life instead of harm, blessing instead of bitterness. That’s the kind of integrity that not only pleases God but also builds trust with those around us.


Prayer:
Lord, search my heart and know me. Root out any hidden bitterness, pride, or deceit. Fill me instead with Your love, Your truth, and Your peace, so that my words reflect Your character. May my life be an honest overflow of a heart made new by You. Amen.

Worship in Spirit and in Truth — The Heart of True Devotion

In John 4:24, Jesus told the Samaritan woman at the well:

“God is spirit, and those who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”

At first glance, these words seem simple — yet they hold a depth that reshapes how we approach God, both in our personal lives and in the gathered worship of the Church.

The Context

This moment happened during a conversation between Jesus and a Samaritan woman, an exchange already breaking cultural and religious boundaries. Samaritans and Jews had long disagreed about where true worship should take place — the temple in Jerusalem or Mount Gerizim. But Jesus shifts the focus away from where worship happens to how it happens.

He declares that the Father seeks worshippers who approach Him “in spirit and in truth.” In other words, authentic worship is not about a location, ritual, or tradition alone, but about the posture of the heart and the alignment of our lives with God’s reality.


Worship in Spirit

To worship in spirit means worship that flows from the inner person — from the soul, mind, and heart — rather than from mere outward ritual. It’s not confined to formal ceremonies or specific buildings; it’s an ongoing communion with God through the Holy Spirit.

  • It is personal. Worship in spirit is deeply intimate. We bring God our joy, our pain, our gratitude, and our struggles without masks.
  • It is empowered by the Holy Spirit. Romans 8:26 reminds us that the Spirit helps us pray and draw near to God. Worship in spirit is fueled by His presence within us.
  • It is 24/7 worship. True worship is not only singing on Sunday — it’s living with a God-centered focus every day.

Worship in Truth

Truth means more than honesty; it refers to aligning our worship with the truth of who God is as revealed in Scripture and ultimately in Jesus Christ Himself (John 14:6).

  • It is rooted in God’s Word. We cannot worship rightly if we worship a God of our own imagination. Scripture shapes our understanding of His nature.
  • It is authentic living. Worship in truth means our lives match our words. Hypocrisy robs worship of its power, but obedience magnifies it.
  • It honors Jesus as the truth. True worship recognizes Jesus as the full revelation of God and surrenders to His lordship.

Why It Matters Today

In a world where worship can sometimes drift toward performance, tradition for tradition’s sake, or emotional experience without substance, John 4:24 calls us back to the core: God desires worship that springs from the heart (spirit) and is anchored in reality (truth).

When spirit and truth meet, worship becomes transformational. It’s not just an act we perform — it’s a way of being in relationship with God. Our songs, prayers, service, and daily choices become living offerings to the One who created us, redeemed us, and loves us without end.


Final Thought
To worship in spirit and in truth is to bring our whole selves to the whole truth of who God is. It is a call to sincerity, to intimacy, and to alignment with His will. The Father seeks such worshippers — may we answer His call.

“Let my mouth be filled with Your praise, and with Your glory all the day.” — Psalm 71:8

Heavenly Father,
You are Spirit — eternal, holy, and full of love. You are truth — unchanging, faithful, and pure. Today, I come before You with all that I am. I lay aside distractions, masks, and pretenses. I want to worship You not only with my lips, but with my heart, my thoughts, and my life.

Holy Spirit, breathe Your life into my worship. Stir in me a deep awareness of Your presence. Teach me to adore You in the quiet moments and in the busyness of the day. Help me see that worship is more than a song — it is obedience, trust, and surrender.

Lord Jesus, You are the Truth who has set me free. Keep my worship rooted in who You truly are, not in who I imagine You to be. Let my life reflect Your goodness and mercy so that others may see and glorify You.

Father, let my worship be pleasing in Your sight — not because it is perfect, but because it is real. May my spirit be fully engaged and my heart anchored in truth every time I come before You.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen.

God is Love

💜 Love at the Center: Understanding 1 John 4:7–10

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.”1 John 4:7–10


1. The Command: Love One Another

John begins with a tender word—Beloved—before calling us to love one another. This is more than a suggestion; it’s the defining trait of Christian life. Love here isn’t reduced to warm feelings or fleeting affection—it’s active, deliberate, and self-giving. It’s the choice to seek another’s good even when it costs us something.


2. The Source: Love Comes from God

John doesn’t say love merely reflects God; he says love is from God. This means:

  • God is the origin of love. We can’t manufacture it on our own.
  • Genuine love is evidence of spiritual birth and a true relationship with God.
  • Where love is absent, intimacy with God is also absent.

When we love, we are participating in the very nature of God.


3. The Definition: God Is Love

“God is love” is one of the shortest yet deepest theological statements in Scripture. It doesn’t mean God is only love—He is also holy, just, and wise—but love is at the core of His being. Everything He does is an expression of love, even His discipline and correction.


4. The Proof: Love Manifested in Jesus

John points to the ultimate demonstration: God sent His only Son into the world so that we could live. This is not love in theory; it’s love in flesh and blood, in nail-pierced hands and a crown of thorns. Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection are God’s visible “I love you” to humanity.


5. The Priority: God Loved First

Love didn’t begin with us reaching toward God. It began with God reaching toward us. Before we could ever desire Him, He already desired us. Before we could ever respond in faith, He had already given the greatest gift—His Son—as the atoning sacrifice for our sins.


6. The Challenge for Us Today

In a world quick to divide, label, and dismiss, 1 John 4:7–10 calls us to live differently. To forgive even when wronged. To show kindness when ignored. To act with generosity when it’s inconvenient. This kind of love doesn’t come naturally—it flows from time spent with God, being transformed by His Spirit.


🕊 Closing Thought:
When we love as God loves, we are not just obeying a command—we are revealing God’s heart to the world. Our love becomes the evidence of His presence in us. The question for each of us is: If love is the proof, can others see God in me?

Membership in God’s Family

Galatians 3:28 reads:

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (ESV)

Paul’s point here is not that social, cultural, or biological distinctions vanish when someone becomes a Christian — rather, it’s that those distinctions no longer determine a person’s value, access to God, or membership in God’s family.

Here’s the meaning broken down:

  1. Context in Galatians
    • Paul is arguing against the idea that Gentile believers must follow the Jewish law (especially circumcision) to be fully accepted by God.
    • He emphasizes that faith in Christ — not ethnicity, status, or gender — is what makes someone a full heir of God’s promises.
  2. “Neither Jew nor Greek”
    • Ethnic or cultural background does not give one person a higher spiritual standing than another.
    • In Christ, both Jews and Gentiles are equally part of God’s covenant family.
  3. “Neither slave nor free”
    • Social class, economic position, or legal status does not affect one’s standing before God.
    • In the Christian community, a slave could stand side-by-side with a free person as a brother or sister in Christ.
  4. “No male and female”
    • Gender does not determine spiritual worth or access to salvation.
    • Men and women are equally called, equally gifted, and equally heirs in Christ.
    • Paul isn’t denying that men and women exist, but he is removing hierarchy in spiritual worth.
  5. “For you are all one in Christ Jesus”
    • The ground at the foot of the cross is level.
    • Unity in Christ transcends the old divisions that society used to enforce.

In essence, Galatians 3:28 is about radical equality in the Gospel: nothing about your ethnicity, social standing, or gender can make God love you more or less, nor can it qualify or disqualify you from His promises.

How does this apply to LGBT?

If we take Galatians 3:28 seriously in its spirit, then its principle speaks powerfully to the question of LGBT inclusion in the Christian community.

Paul’s statement is a sweeping declaration that in Christ, no human category—ethnic, social, or gender-related—can be used as a barrier to belonging. While he didn’t directly mention sexual orientation or gender identity (terms not part of his cultural vocabulary), the underlying theological principle can still apply.

Here’s how:


1. Radical Equality in Christ

  • In Paul’s day, the biggest divisions in the church were ethnic (Jew/Greek), social (slave/free), and gender (male/female).
  • Today, one of the most divisive questions in the church revolves around sexuality and gender identity.
  • By analogy, Paul’s argument means: If you are in Christ, these categories do not determine whether you are fully accepted as part of God’s people.

2. Identity in Christ is Primary

  • Paul’s focus is not on erasing differences but on removing them as status markers in the kingdom of God.
  • For an LGBT person, this means their value, worth, and spiritual calling are not diminished by their orientation or identity—those are not barriers to being “one in Christ.”

3. A Model for Inclusion

  • The early church had to make a radical cultural leap to welcome Gentiles without demanding they first become Jews.
  • Many affirming theologians argue that this sets a precedent: the church should not require LGBT people to erase or deny core aspects of themselves in order to be welcomed into full fellowship.

4. The Unity Paul Envisions

  • This unity doesn’t mean uniformity. It means the church is called to live in a community where diversity—whether in ethnicity, gender, or sexuality—is embraced without hierarchy.
  • Under this lens, LGBT Christians are not “second-class” believers; they are equally heirs of the promises.

💡 In short:
If Galatians 3:28 were written today in the same spirit, Paul might have said:

“There is neither gay nor straight, neither transgender nor cisgender, neither queer nor hetero, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

That doesn’t mean all churches accept this application—but it is a faithful extension of Paul’s principle if we read it through the lens of grace, equality, and the tearing down of dividing walls.

“Day by Day”: Finding Meaning in Solitude Through Song

This morning, during my quiet prayer time, I came across a hymn that spoke directly to a deep place in my soul. “Day by Day” by Karoline Sandell-Berg is more than just a beautiful piece of music—it is a profound reminder of how God’s love sustains us, even when life feels confusing, lonely, or uncertain.

In a moment of reflection, as I pondered the questions I often carry—Why am I alone? Why don’t I have a partner or husband? Where do I fit in this wide world?—this hymn gently answered.


A Hymn Born from Grief

Karoline Sandell-Berg, a Swedish hymnwriter, experienced great sorrow early in life. At just 26 years old, she watched her beloved father drown during a boat trip. Out of this tragedy came one of the most tender hymns ever written—a song of trust, surrender, and quiet faith.

“Day by day and with each passing moment,
Strength I find to meet my trials here…”

These opening lines are not poetic escape—they are a declaration of faith. Not in our own strength, but in the strength God gives each day—just enough for what we need.


The Answer Hidden in the Words

As I sat with the hymn, I heard a truth that I needed:
God does not promise all the answers at once. He promises His presence day by day. When I long for love, companionship, or a clearer sense of purpose, I am reminded that what God gives is not random. It is what Karoline calls:

“The Father’s wise bestowment.”

I may not understand why I walk this journey alone, but I am not unloved. I am not unseen. What I experience is not absence—it is invitation. An invitation to discover that even in solitude, I am never without God.


Loneliness, Held in Love

“He whose heart is kind beyond all measure
Gives unto each day what He deems best…”

There are days when the loneliness is heavy. Days when silence echoes too loudly. But this hymn does not deny that weight—it holds it tenderly. And then it offers hope.

This hope is not that things will suddenly change, but that each day will come with enough grace to carry us through. That the God whose heart is kind beyond all measure will not fail to provide what is needed—whether comfort, strength, or the faith to keep walking.


A Refrain for the Soul

“Day by Day” reminds me that I am not forgotten. Even without a partner, I belong—to God, to the body of Christ, and to myself. My story is not on hold. It is unfolding under the care of a loving God.

“Help me then in every tribulation
So to trust Thy promises, O Lord,
That I lose not faith’s sweet consolation
Offered me within Thy holy Word.”

These words have become my prayer.


Final Thoughts

This hymn is a spiritual roadmap for those of us traveling unfamiliar roads. It reminds us to trust in divine timing, to rest in the daily provision of God, and to believe that love is always present—even if it does not arrive in the ways we imagined.

So today, I choose to live day by day.
I choose to trust.
I choose to believe that I am held.
And for today, that is enough.

Wildest dreams

Have you ever caught yourself praying small, hesitant prayers—asking for just enough strength to make it through the day, or just enough hope to keep going?

Then you read something like Ephesians 3:20 in The Message:

“God can do anything, you know—far more than you could ever imagine or guess or request in your wildest dreams! He does it not by pushing us around but by working within us, his Spirit deeply and gently within us.”

That’s a wake-up call. It’s Paul saying: “Your imagination isn’t even close to the limit of what God can do through you.”

What Does This Mean in Real Life?

It means that the love you thought you didn’t have the strength to give—that’s exactly where God wants to show His power.

It means that the forgiveness you thought was impossible? The healing you thought could never come? The dream you buried long ago? These are not just sentimental hopes—they’re invitations for God’s Spirit to move deeply and gently within us.

We’re not talking about magical thinking. We’re talking about a God who partners with us—not to control us, but to transform us from the inside out. God isn’t a puppeteer; He’s a presence. A power. A pulse of grace running through the quiet places of our daily lives.

What Are the “Wildest Things” God Can Do?

  • He can restore a broken relationship you’ve long given up on.
  • He can birth new purpose from deep pain.
  • He can take a shy, wounded heart and make it bold in love.
  • He can stir a sense of calling in your spirit that changes the direction of your entire life.

And the best part? He doesn’t need you to be perfect. He just needs you to say yes.

So, What Should We Do?

  • Dream again. Don’t limit your prayers to what feels “reasonable.” God’s love isn’t reasonable. It’s infinite.
  • Be open. God may not work how you expect, but He always works in ways that reveal His goodness.
  • Trust the Spirit. His work is gentle but powerful. You might not see it all at once, but over time, it will shape everything.

Final Word

What if we began each day not asking, “What can I handle?” but “What might God want to do in me today that I could never dream on my own?”

Because when God works within us, the possibilities become limitless.
And sometimes, the wildest thing He does…
is make us whole.


Silence and Solitude

The Christian disciplines of silence and solitude are ancient spiritual practices that have been central to Christian spiritual formation since the early Church. They are not merely about being alone or quiet but are deeply intentional disciplines that foster intimacy with God, deepen self-awareness, and cultivate spiritual maturity.


1. What Is Silence in the Christian Tradition?

Silence is the practice of intentionally refraining from speaking or listening to noise in order to create space for God.

  • External Silence: Turning off distractions—phones, music, news, conversations—to allow a space where God’s voice can be heard.
  • Internal Silence: Quieting the inner noise of thoughts, worries, and mental clutter. This is often the harder silence to enter.

“Be still and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10

In silence, we resist the compulsion to fill space with words. It helps us:

  • Listen more attentively to the Holy Spirit
  • Cultivate humility by recognizing that not all needs our commentary
  • Let go of control and trust in God’s presence and voice

2. What Is Solitude in the Christian Tradition?

Solitude is the spiritual discipline of intentionally spending time alone with God and away from people for the purpose of spiritual renewal.

  • Not loneliness, but sacred aloneness
  • Not escape from the world, but preparation to return to the world differently

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” — Mark 1:35

In solitude, we:

  • Meet God without the noise of others’ expectations
  • Confront our true selves without masks
  • Rest from the demands of life and ministry

3. Why Are Silence and Solitude Important Today?

In a world of constant noise, notifications, and busyness, silence and solitude are countercultural. They help us:

  • Recover clarity: We become aware of our attachments, fears, and hopes.
  • Renew strength: Resting in God re-centers and re-energizes us.
  • Deepen prayer: Our prayers become less about words and more about presence.
  • Grow in love: By being alone with God, we are better able to love others from a place of peace.

4. How to Begin Practicing Silence and Solitude

Start small and be patient. It is a lifelong journey.

  • Begin with 5–10 minutes a day. Sit in silence, breathe, and simply say, “Here I am, Lord.”
  • Go on a silent retreat (even a few hours in a park or chapel).
  • Create a sacred space in your home with a candle, Bible, and chair.
  • Practice listening prayer—speak less, listen more.
  • Resist the urge to do—this is not about productivity, but presence.

5. Voices from the Christian Tradition

  • Henri Nouwen: “Without solitude, it is almost impossible to live a spiritual life.”
  • Thomas Merton: “In silence, God ceases to be an object and becomes an experience.”
  • St. Benedict: Monastic life was built around times of silence and withdrawal from the world.

A Closing Prayer

Lord of the Quiet,

Teach me to seek You in stillness.
Pull me away from the noise that dulls my spirit.
Help me rest in the silence where Your voice becomes clear.
In solitude, shape me into one who loves You more deeply
and loves others more freely.

Amen.

No Weekend War

The News reports are depressing. The pictures of children starving in Gaza are inhumane. The destruction of property and the killing of innocent people in Ukraine and Gaza due to war are inexcusable. The establishment of a whites-only community in Missouri is disgusting. The flood deaths in Texas are beyond belief. The number of senior adults in America living in poverty….we could go on.

Paul writes in Ephesians 6 “This is no weekend war that we’ll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish…” (The Message)

We are in the same place that those before us faced. We are dealing with powers that control us: political, economic, and religious. They determine what is legal and illegal. They determine what we will pay for things that meet our needs, and they seek to tell us what GOD wants. They can be forces of good or forces that destroy, abuse, misuse, and kill.

Paul writes in Ephesians 6 (The Message) , “13-18 Be prepared. You’re up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it’s all over but the shouting you’ll still be on your feet.

The news makes us feel so helpless, but Paul reminds us to use every weapon that God has issued. Paul lists the following weapons:

  1. Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You’ll need them throughout your life.
  2. God’s Word is an indispensable weapon.
  3. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters.
  4. Keep your eyes open.
  5. Keep each other’s spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.

What great advice!!! Hang in there!!!

Religious Lace and Pious Talk

How should I respond to the words and actions of our current resident in the White House, Donald Trump? How should i react to those who support him and do not see the damage that is being done?

This raises other issues, such as how to react when someone disagrees with what I say or believe. Do I continue to argue to prove that I am right? Should I get revenge when someone wrongs me? Do I have prejudices against others?

Could we agree that Jesus is a good role model to follow? Listen to these words from Matthew 5 The Message in the Sermon on the Mount,

33-37 “And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.”

Pious Talk and religious lace are powerful descriptions of what we do often. We use these techniques to mask what is in the heart. We adopt a “us vs them” attitude. We use Scripture in the same way I am doing to prove we are right and they are wrong. We make a major error when we fail to see our enemies as God sees them, or do we?

How should I react to the supporters of the resident in the White House and to the leaders of our national government when we disagree? Do I rebel against this as the forefathers of our nation did? Should I wait for the next election and seek to vote them out of power? Should I sit silently by and not get involved?

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?